Can Men be Friends With Their Ex-girlfriends?
Most people dread the phrase “can we just be friends” as it usually
signifies the end of a relationship. While this question is one of the
classic breakup lines, it is a statement that should be carefully
considered before embarking on the relationship to friendship
transition. Before jumping blindly from a relationship to a friendship
there are many important things to consider and you should be fully
prepared to manage the relationship differently without getting your
feelings hurt.
Before you commit to “just being friends” you should evaluate your
intentions and make sure you are not setting yourself up for disaster.
Remaining friends with an ex who was a friend before, or remaining
friends because you have a genuine connection and shared interests are
good reasons to make the transition. Being friends with an ex in hopes
that you will get back together, or to keep tabs on then or to seek
revenge are reasons that will certainly lead to disaster. If you have
good intentions and a genuine connection with your ex then pursuing a
friendship can be a good idea.
You should also consider the value of your ex’s friendship and make sure
they will add value to your life. Neither of you will benefit if you
remain friends for the wrong reasons. Too many people have friends and
acquaintances that do not add any positive energy to their lives and it
is important that you look at all of your ex’s qualities and make sure
they will positively impact your life. If your ex has traits that will
not help you to be a happy and healthy person, then you will probably be
better off without them. Make a mental list of all the good and bad
qualities they possess and make sure their friendship will be a valuable
and healthy one.
Going from boyfriend to friend can work, but if you focus too much on
the friendship of harbor intentions other than platonic ones, you are
setting yourself up for disaster. If you decide to go the friendship
route you should make sure that you are not expecting anything more to
happen. It is important to give yourself time to heal and move on, even
if you are remaining friends with your ex. Don’t rely too much on your
friendship to help you heal, get out and do things, meet new people, and
move on with your life.
If you do decide to be friends with your ex-girlfriend, make sure you
set ground rules and then stick too them. Setting boundaries before you
continue your relationship as friends will help you to avoid making
mistakes that you will regret and will further complicate your
friendship. If pursuing a friendship is important to both of you then
you should both decide what types of interactions are appropriate and do
your best to make sure that the lines you set are not crossed. Keeping
your relationship positive and platonic is the key to success, so be
sure to set the boundaries you both need to make this possible.
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